I participated in a Twitter chat with @ForWomenToWomen. One of the chat questions was: “To move forward sometimes it requires cutting back or cutting off. What is one thing you are eliminating from your life?” Quite a few women replied by saying they are eliminating negative thinking or negative self-talk.
How many Damsels are also suffering from negative self-talk?
How often have you talked yourself out of working toward a big bold goal? How many of your dreams have gone unfulfilled because you’ve convinced yourself it was too hard, unreasonable or simply impossible? How many times have you doubted your own intelligence? Lost faith in your funding? Or worried you don’t have the credentials to start working toward your dreams?
I want to encourage you to do the impossible.
As you are ever-evolving your dreams and goals should be evolving too!
Just be sure your goals aren’t changing because you’ve convinced yourself it can’t be done. Your goals should be serving a purpose. That purpose is to encourage growth. They should also be measurable. If your goals don’t reach these two requirements, CHANGE THEM. CHANGE THEM NOW!
When you’re setting your goals, do me a favor and ignore the norm!
While dreaming, do just that: D R E A M. Ignore social pressures! IDC if it’s crazy, un-ladylike, a bad decision or weird! Just dream. Dream as big and as bold and as scary as you choose to! Set your goals to help you reach those big scary dreams. Accept reality but ignore the norm. You don’t have to fit in, just let your dreams free in the driver seat!
Be gentle with yourself!
Okay, Honey, I will let you in on a little secret. You set the precedence to how well or poorly others treat you. So if you love on yourself, speak life to yourself and shed a positive light on yourself; you will, in turn, attract those who will do the same and not accept negativity from others. But Babygirl, if you’re not speaking life, love, and positivity into your life, how exactly what you will attract it?! So Dear, how in the heck are you going to quit your day job to work on your dream job? How will you chase after your crazy scary big bold goals if you’re speaking negativity?
#PositiveVibesOnly Break the cycle of negativity, keep dreaming, keep setting goals that are challenging you to grow and don’t allow social norms to stifle you! After all who cares if you look crazy chasing after your dreams! Remember when Beyoncé left Destiny’s Child? Yea … that’s all history now! This week I challenge you to step out of your comfort
Be bold. Live out loud & as always remember,
#NoDistress #DreamALittleBigger #NoNegativity