I met my mentor a little over a year ago. She was facilitating a mastermind group around John C. Maxwell’s book “The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership”. The MMG had about 10 participants including the facilitator and group leader. Each week for 7 weeks we met for about an hour and a half to discuss the book. Each week we would read 3 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. If you’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting my astonishing mentor, April Swan-Jackson; Then you understand when I say, we almost instantly connected.
As the weeks progressed I got to know a little bit of this inspiriing woman’s life story and I wanted to know more. As the mmg facilitator, she encouraged me to grow. From less than 2 hours a week this woman inpacted areas of my life I had not anticipated. She inspired and encouraged me. She listed to me and helped me to find creative solutions to my problems. But most of all she made me feel comfortable exactly where I was.
On the last day of the class, I mustered up enough courage to ask the woman (who encouraged me to not only get off my duff and hit publish for the first time on my blog, but also to invest time in developing as a woman and to seek Christ) to be my mentor. Her response was: “Of course, I’ve been waiting for you to ask me!” I swear we had a divine appointment that was set way before I stepped foot in that class!
I challenge you to find a mentor!
How To Spot A Good Mentor
For me, finidng a mentor took me quite some time because I didn’t know exactly what I was looking for in a mentor. So before you start looking to identify a mentor, first ask yourself what you would like your mentor todo. Do you want your mentor to teach you something? Do you want your mentor to introduce you to their network? How about someone who will hold you accountable? Also consider what type of time comitment you are looking for. Do you want to get dinner once a month or meet every week?
Once you’ve identified what you are looking for in a mentor, now you can start looking for persons to mentor you. Talk to your immediate family and friends to ask for recomendations. Consider reaching out to people in your immediate network to either be a mentor or recomend one. When you choose one make sure the person: has model behaviour and ethical business practices; can commit to helping you to grow and reach your goals; has the time to meet with you on previously arranged frequency and you can be beneficial to in return.
How My Mentor Has Helped Me
I cannot begin to tell you just how grateful I am for my mentor. Not only has sewn into my life she has sewn into my business as welll. She and I can discuss any and everything: Christ, college, traveling, work, our passion projects, food, music. You name it. We have talked about it!
More important than us being able to talk about anything, she challenges me. When we meet and I discuss my plans she asks how they relate to my goals for the year. She challenges me to set smart goals. She even has given me work that has made me step outside of my comfort zone.
She gives me advice. Initially she would challenge me to talk to three people a day about my business either online or IRL. Eventually, the challenge changed to hand out 3 business cards a day. (But I didn’t own business cards). Then when I got them she advised me to always use all the space on the business card: front and back. She is constantly giving me advice and pouring into me.
She encourages me and helps me to stay grounded. Even when she isn’t giving me advice persionally she is inspiring me. Her business facebook fan page keeps me inspired daily. Not only does it inspire me with the positive up lifiting content. But also it reminds me to always be keep creating for my own content using my authentic voice.
My mentor has not only been an asset to my life but also to my business!
If you don’t have a mentor #BetterGetChuOneASAP
If you can’t identify a man or woman who is willing to sew into you perhaps look into hiring a business or life coach. The point is to get someone you respect in your corner so that they can encourage you. Try to chose someone who is where you want to be. So they can help guide you when you need assistance. Someone who will be just as invested in your success as you are but also someone you can help too; it’s just as important that you are an asset as a mentee.
Be bold. Live out loud & as always remember,